Friday, May 08, 2009

Whining and clergy

I started to reply to Tagryn in the comments section, but it got to be so long, I figured I might as well respond in a separate post.

First, the black clergy have historically been a powerful political force in the African American community, and still are in places like Philly (where you can't win a major political seat without the backing of the main black clergy organization). They may not have the same "pull" in DC anymore because of gentrification, but Berry's smart to at least acknowledge his community's feelings on the matter: he is a politician, after all.

He's not being smart, here. He thinks he is, but it's going to blow up in his face.

Unfortunately, Barry is in absolutely no danger whatsoever of losing his seat. If his Ward 8 constituents can overlook the sheer tonnage of things about Marion Barry one would have to overlook in order to cast a vote for him, joining a unanimous vote of the city council to recognize gay marriage isn't going to cost him his job.

And even if there was a chance it would? Since when does electoral calculation make it okay to support bigotry? Every other member of the council (and Fenty) willingly put themselves in the crosshairs of angry interest groups because they knew it was the right thing to do. So what's Barry's excuse?

Second, without the black clergy, the civil rights movement in the '60s doesn't happen. They formed the bulk of the organization and leadership which made MLK possible.

So? That has jack to do with what's happening now. If the current black clergy had their way, the current civil rights movement wouldn't be happening. They don't get to dine out on MLK forever.

So you'd think they'd be a natural group to get on board for this, but there's been virtually zero outreach to the black clergy (or the African American community at large, for that matter) on the part of the gay marriage movement; instead, they've been getting vitriol and disdain like we see in this post.

Let's be very clear: This is not an issue where there can be legitimate difference of opinion, like with abortion or gun control or the economy. There's no defensible reason to be against gay marriage. There's bigotry and...bigotry. And that's about it.

But even if that wasn't the case, what sort of outreach do you envision? Gay marriage is a zero sum game. Either it happens or it doesn't, with no room for compromise. Based on the vitriol and disdain we saw from the black ministers at the Wilson Building this week, I don't see much of an opening for constructive dialogue, do you?

Or to put it another way, exactly how does one reach out to something like this?

As long as they're treated like enemies, instead of potential allies, they'll continue to be defensive and act like enemies. Considering how they've been approached - again, see above post - its hard to blame them. If I printed this out and took it to a minister, think it'd be very persuasive to get him on board?

First, go ahead and print it out and take it to a minister. I'd really appreciate it.

Second, they're not potential allies. They've made their position abundantly clear. They're against gay marriage. Again, what room do you see for compromise here? If you're an anti-gay minister, what can I possibly say to you to get you to change your position?

The answer, of course, is nothing. That's why neither the gay community nor the city council has show much interest in approaching them like they're potential allies. It's a waste of time.

But hey, keep on underestimating them and telling them they need to just shut up. How's that been working so far?

Well, by a 12-1 vote, gay marriage is now recognized in the District of Columbia. I'd say it's working pretty fucking good.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow, smackdown. Very nice, scotus!

tagryn said...

Gay marriage is a zero sum game. Either it happens or it doesn't, with no room for compromise.Certainly there's a compromise position: civil unions with all the legal rights of marriage, but not the specific title of "marriage." The AA community would probably be much more open to that. As DR writes here, though, civil unions don't give the same level of social approval as 'marriage' does, which is what the fight is really all about.

What's I think the gay rights movement is missing is that in order to get that approval, you need precisely the kind of dialog and conversations that DCU rejects. You can't legalize away what people think, you have to actually talk to them and change their minds. Positions *do* change, but they don't do so on their own, and also tend to do so gradually, so a "damn-the-torpedoes, you WILL change your mind NOW!" approach isn't likely to work.

Proposition 8 passed in CA precisely because outreach to minority communities was poor, and it showed in the results: blacks and Hispanics voted for P8 at significantly higher rates than whites. Even among the AA clergy, though, they were hardly monolithic in their views on P8. There's certainly opportunities and inroads to be made, but I don't see the gay rights movement doing what needs to be done to win over hearts and minds among opponents. There's too much treating people on the other side as enemies (see DCU's original post) rather than people to be persuaded and won over. And that kind of no-conversation, no-compromise, they're-all-bigots-anyway stance is mistaken and antiproductive, in my opinion.

It's DCU's blog, though, so I'll end here.

Scotus said...

First, there is no "DCU." Hi. It's me. It's my blog. Tap out if you want, but don't feel as though you need to stop on my account.

Second, why should the gay community compromise by agreeing to civil unions just to placate the African American community? Who gives a damn what they want? And yes, while it would have been preferable for them to arrive at tolerance for equality on their own, if government has to shove it down their throats, so be it. It may piss off the current generation, but the next one will grow up accepting of gay marriage. So mission accomplished, either way.

Finally, it's important to remember that in this country, marriage is not solely a Christian function. You can get married by a judge. You can get married by a ship's captain. You can get married by any schmuck who becomes an ordained minister online (of which I am). No one's saying churches should be required to marry gay couples. But nor do clergy get to tell everyone they're not allowed to, either.

tagryn said...

Actually, I think the solution that works best is to get the government out of the business of determining what is and isn't a marriage, period. Transfer all the legal trappings that are currently under "marriage" to contracts between individuals, and leave determination/recognition to other social institutions. Seems simple.

Problem is, the government uses marriage for a lot of different things: determination of income tax rates; taxation on health insurance; Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits for spouses; taxation on estates; immigration and citizenship rights if one spouse is a citizen; ability to make medical decisions for an incapacitated spouse; and those are just a few of them. Further, should such union-contracts be limited to being between just two individuals, is there a simple way to dissolve them, etc.? On what basis do we (or judges) make those determinations? Is there any logistical way to do this without creating another gigantic bureaucracy to handle all the paperwork that would be generated?

So even that "simple" solution isn't simple.

Marissa said...

Excellent nipple-twisting. That is all.

Scotus said...

Tagryn: That's an awful lot of trouble to go through just to make sure marriage becomes the exclusive province of the church in an attempt to keep gay people from getting married.

Here's a much simpler proposal: Any two people of legal age who want to get married, can. Kind of like how it is in DC now.

Marissa: Thanks. I would normally hate twisting religious nipples. But there are apparently quite a few that need it in this instance.

Anonymous said...

Youths in the inner-city black community abandoned marriage long ago because it's "acting white."

http://www.iwf.org/inkwell/printer/17113.html

Why don't these black churches tackle that problem, and leave the gays alone to live their lives?

I love the conservative view: "Protecting marriage by severely rationing it!"

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